Par 3

With the Masters kicking off this past week, I honestly think this is worst time in sports. Mostly due to Basketball, football, and hockey has either ended or playoffs are about to start. The hype around Tiger Woods is unreal right now.  But as a father it’s the best time though. Spring is here, which means I can finely take my kid out and start exploring. This has been a crazy week for myself.

 

This upcoming week I’m head back to school for a course. Its funny though, cause I played basketball at this college. I feel like returning for one more shot. This must have been what Michael Jordan must have felt like when he returned to the Bulls. I am honestly confused about the process, but you have trust the process. Wonder if the Sixers trust the process to win the NBA championship?  I think they have good chance at winning the East; on the other hand there is Lebron James.  Studying after class is usually what crushes me, but now I am going to approach it head on. No easy day.

 

I played in first spring league game. Not bad, 16 pts, 5, ast, 1 blk. Its not a terrible stat. I’ve put up better though. Another guy whom also started spring is Johnny Manziel. Is the dude back, or just a dude who is really good playing at a low level? I think he could make a comeback though. Myself, I’m excited for the education part of school this time. Not just balling out of control, just improving me and my career. Maybe I’ll even take some jump shots at the gym. It’ll be strange to walk the halls, cause last you were there it was like 10 years ago.

 

It’s been a wicked past few days; my kid is growing and getting over a chest infection. Why do kids get sick so much?  We have watched a few movies and I have discovered troll hunters, sweet fucking show. One thing I have to have to say, now that I am dad. I have started to watch a lot more cartoons. Most shows I grew up with. I have watched Dragon Ball Z and My Hero Academia. It’s been awesome though. The kid has become a lot more cuddly and needy. More cranky episodes, and of course me trying to sooth a kid when then they only want their moms. This upcoming week is going to be full struggle and a reward. I can’t wait honestly.

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Upsets and Cinderella runs

With Loyola losing to Michigan, it ends there like a Cinderella run. It kind of makes me angry, just a little bit with them losing. Like if my kid walks in into the corner of a table or the couch, should I be angry with myself? Or do I just say walk it off kid? It’s a tough choice. Either way you’re stuck with calming your child down and hiding the tears from your wife. Because lets face it, if you fuck up, you might die.

Moving on from that baby stage to that toddler stage can be big a problem. They become little people, with personalities. My kid touches everything, licks everything, and gets mad at me for no reason. It’s more of sports agent at this point. Trying to understand what they want, but they cant really express that due to a lack of words. “Like dad I want more of this and need more attention.” Can you imagine if Odell Beckham Jr. was like “hey coach, I want the franchise tag?” But could express it through moans, groans and angry fits. Oh wait; NY giants could trade him with that attitude. Oh, Dez Bryant, what now?

When I come home from work, I’m tired. I have one rule that I was to obey by. Pick up your kid no matter what. My dad did it, so now I do it. No matter how tired I am. I always pick up the kid. I know it can be shitty at work, but when you come home remember that there’s a kid that loves you no matter what. It’s sad that some people don’t really pay that much attention to their children. Get off the fucking phone, Facebook isn’t going anywhere, Instagram don’t give a fuck about you.

If you didn’t become what you want, or who want, there’s time, trust me. It is never to late to become a better dad, person, lover or just overall person. Just put practice in. It’ll pay off. Look at Cleveland Cavs, looking good for the playoffs, and Yankees looking good too. Just keep your head down and grind it out. You’ll always be a superstar to your kid. You may never have gotten to be an all star, MVP or even medal at anything. Parenting doesn’t give participation medals, it’s either be good, or be shitty. Don’t fuck up when its time to show up. Just keep showing up and grinding. If you got to get help to get you there find it and use it. Either way I love being a dad and the adventure is always up and down. But damn, it’s damn rewarding.

Triple Double Russ Face

 

When your kid is settling into a new place, they tend not to sleep though the night. That’s not good news for you as a parent. Instead its filled with “I’ll get the baby” or “fuck me, I need sleep”. It’s painful but it’s parenting. They don’t give out medals for it. Waking up at first I was just angry, just looking like Russell Westbrook after he dunks. Curled lips, and a pure frown. It’s a good look for me.

 

With Cleveland Browns signing Jarvis Landry, did they get a whole better? Now do I draft him in fantasy? I’ll leave that question up to you. Like him, I want a home of my own. Seeking to buy a house is no easy task. Especially when you’re not rich, and housing is expensive. It’s a learning curve. It’s like big, small, how many bedrooms, and how many toilets do I really want to clean? What happens if you take the biggest shits in the house? These are my thoughts when I walk through these show homes. It’s nice knowing that you’re looking for one, and planning a better future for your family.

 

Lets talk upsets for a second; like I get surprised that my child just outsmarted me on a simple task. Like turning on my Google phone, it’s weird that she figured out an IPhone, so smart. Lets be honest, it’s an apple product. It’s not hard. But she figured out my phone completely. Kids theses day. Next thing she’ll want is to listen to mumble rap and shit rock music. I’ll be trying my hardest to have Mobb Deep, Nas, Tupac, Mike Stud, Travis James Band, Tragically Hip, and Johnny Cash playing in the background, I promise. Now no one predicted that Loyola IL would make it to the Final four, let alone make it out of the first round.

 

With the ponds melting and grass slowly coming through, that means basketball is coming to an end, and baseball is starting. With spring season starting, I’m excited for the first time in a long time about baseball. AAU basketball is also starting. With kids come the loud mouth parents. I guess in closing, don’t sleep with your mouth open; nobody likes slobber, just asks my wife. Get up at night share the duty of a kid. Learn to love the sleepless night because they need you. Then one-day they won’t. To be honest, it’s a fear of mine.

Comeback SZN

Just like Johnny Manziel, a comeback is a comeback. OR at least attempting Sorry, I haven’t posted in awhile. It’s been a busy off time, between ups and downs. But it was it is. In the last 6 months, I have celebrated a Christmas, thanksgiving and a first birthday.

Truly 2017 was a Crazy year. The pats lost and Philly brought home their first super bowl. Oh, where does it leave QB situation for Philly? And I was the first child to move back home. With a move back home and growing family, I feel almost lost. Without a routine and starting a new one, slowly I am becoming a new person. Becoming a better dad and my child starting to need me more. First steps was crazy, I felt like LeBron just dunked on someone. I was hyped.

Working away from home was difficult for me this time around. With a growing kid, I felt like I was missing out on my family. But you got to pay the bills. Make that money! With my nights being filled with working out and balling out of control. Oh dunking a basketball is pretty cool I guess. Fast food was my source of meals and it was shitty eating. Maybe I was eating shitty food because I was way to lazy to cook something good. Time to get back to the grind.

Cardboard boxes have surrounded my life lately. I am really digging the look. Fuck I am a hipster? Hell no, just a bump in the road. Being a dad is about adapting and getting creative. When you stop doing those two things, I believe that’s when you become boring. I challenge you to do something different. Not only for yourself but also for your family. Jimmy Graham needed a change, now I think the packers could win a Super bowl, Aaron Rogers can stay healthy or can we aspect another head injury?

March is a crazy month. With paying off debt, learning new things, becoming a better dad, and also having my bracket busted. Why did Arizona lose? And why didn’t Miami win either? With no dog in the fight, I got Xavier, Villanova, Clemson, and my underdog is Butler. But in saying all of this could change, it’s all good though. Who you got going to the final four? I’m back for good now. “Coming back like 23.

Speaking My Language

Dealing with a kid that is learning crawl and stand up is busy. Between her and the dog, I have started to feel like I have become a goalie and chasing them both. One is in the dog water and other eating the leftover crackers. My favorite word lately is “No”. The wife can drop that word on dime, and then I get to watch a 10 month old crawl away and act like she didn’t do it. We also started to use sign language when telling her No. I mostly just say no, when I don’t want to do anything.

I have hearing lost, and I wear hearing aids. Which I am trying to wear a lot more, but at the same time I just forget to wear them. I have had hearing lost since I was a little kid. That’s reason why we as family are using sign language around the house. My biggest fear is that I’ll go completely deaf, and not have a way to communicate with my family.  It’s been interesting trying to learn a language that acquires for your hands. About 80 percent of the time I feel like I’m flipping gang signs.

When my daughter was born, I was hoping she didn’t have any hearing related problems. I honestly wasn’t prepared if she was. Then one day I was like “What the fuck Troy, if you can get through it. So can she.” I was treating it like it was a handicap, instead of thinking that it wasn’t.

I’m slowing learning sign language. It has been difficult to remember to talk and use sign together. Simple things like saying yes and no. I forget to use them or I don’t enforce it.  So I’ve been trying to keep a consistent reminder to use it. YouTube has been the biggest help. There are a lot of resources out there if you want to learn baby sign. The word love in sign has been my favorite. I also do enjoy swearing at people when I get mad, but honestly they have no idea on what I’m saying. It looks I’m just some strange dude playing with his hands. It’s been awesome watching my daughter starting to recognize sign.

Here’s a link that helped me:

http://www.babysignlanguage.com/

 

 

Away From Home

Well these last few days have been interesting. I went out of town to work. I learned a few things to say the least. I think the hardest thing about work away from home is watching your child grow from your phone. They are always learning and discovering things every day. When I got home, I felt sort out of the loop. I wasn’t gone very long, but still.

The first thing I noticed is the love you get from your kid when you come home. As soon as she saw me, a giant smile came across her face. I felt at home. She giggled and was just happy that I was home. The first thing we did together was play. We rolled around on the floor, and ate snacks. It’s the little things that make us happy. I was honestly just trying to enjoy the moment.

I took a step back trying to take it all in not knowing if the routine has changed at home because kids grow up so much and so fast. Things change quickly, and you can get lost. I had no idea my daughter was sitting up in her crib and playing with her blankets. She sits there just relaxing and getting herself ready for to sleep for the night. A simple few days away can change a lot of things. Lucky in my case, things didn’t change much. So ask your partner if any of the routine changed, because there’s no point in fighting about it.

Enjoy your time with your family. One thing I’m starting to learn is plan stuff for that time. Make that time exciting.  But really try and challenge yourself. I’ve been to trying to read, workout, being present more. I am trying to spend less time on the phone, spending more time on the floor playing with my daughter. We went to Pet-A-Plooza this weekend; it was busy with a lot of people. Not really my thing but hey, if my family likes it.  So really make the time count. Just by you being home and present, could change how your family relationship could go. So take the time. What’s the worst that could happen?

Once the time has ended, and you start packing your bags, remember that work is work. Be prepared to miss your family. But really take in that last moment. Back up your partners’ decisions while you’re away. Facetime or even just a phone call could change a bad day to a good day. Don’t text; make the message from your voice. Saying goodnight to your kid over the phone makes the world a better place for your kid, it really does. I remember when my dad was overseas, and I would count the seconds in head until my mom would pass the phone to me. It changed my day just hearing his voice. Time is precious, so take everything in and appreciate it.

Keep on, Keeping on

 

 

 

Fast food fathers- snack time

Parents! Need something quick to make and easy to make. Boom Check this out!

Banana Bread

2 to 3 ripe bananas – mashed

1/3 cup melted butter

1 tsp baking soda

Pinch of salt

¾ cup sugar

1 large egg – beaten

1 tsp vanilla extract

1 ½ cups flour

Preheat oven to 350° F and butter pan

Mash bananas and stir in the melted butter

Mix in baking soda and salt. Stir in sugar, beaten egg and vanilla extract. Mix in flour last

Pour in batter into loaf pan. Bake for 50 – 60 minutes

Remove from oven and cool completely on rack before removing from pan

Lessons from Moana

Parenthood is full of lessons. Every day I discover something new about myself. Between early mornings and late nights, seems like I’m stumbling along the way. Frustration is a normal with everything changing. Moana has given me a few life lessons, which I seem to put into my life.

  1. Who are you?

Moana is asking herself who she is meant be. In a way I’m searching for this new dude. As father, I’m simply confused with the lifestyle changes. Watching your kid grow up is a major change to your life. You become more emotional and asking yourself where the time went. Two months, she is barely rolling over and now she is almost crawling. With all that you are changing too. Running on very little sleep, asking yourself how much coffee is left in pot, and when can I shit in peace. Your body could be changing too. Gaining a few pounds or even losing a few pounds. Financial stress could be happening at your household. Either way you look at it, you’re asking yourself “Who have I become”

 

  1. Learning something new.

In the movie, Moana must learn to sail. As she starts to sail, she makes mistakes and stumbles along the way. That’s been my whole experience as a parent. Getting my finger covered in poop, guessing bottle measurements, and trying adjust my lifestyle to their routine. Moana meets Maui who teaches her how to sail.  My teacher was my mother, I have seven sisters. So I learned a lot already. But it’s different when it’s your own child. The only things I can say is keep on learning.

 

  1. Positive attitude.

At the worst of times you need to have a great attitude, even when things start to go bad. I get it; the kid could be cranky when driving somewhere. Take a breather, and relax. Nothing is going to get better if you have a shitty attitude; it’s going to get worse. You’ll most likely just get more frustrated and in turn so will they. I have done that to myself. It’s the worst feeling, I just felt defeated. Not because I was mad, just because I gave into myself. Remember kids grow and can be a pain in your ass. Be happy. And your welcome.

Parenting can be tough. But so is life. It sucks. The strange thing is that it only gets better, I promise that it will. The next time you are watching your kid’s favorite movie or show. Please and try to take a lesson away from it. Unless it’s Caliou, fuck that kid.  Otherwise turn on your favorite movie when the kid falls asleep.  After all, happiness is always key.

Keep on Keeping on

Locker Room Talk: Macrophonic Mc

This guy! A man who has lived a life. He’s dad, Emcee, a hard worker, and a martial artist. I was really glad I had the chance to talk to this guy. The best a part was his honesty. A dad of a son and daughter.  Check him out!

What’s the hardest learning experience as a father?

Whoa! Haha Start with a doozy! I think the most difficult learning experience for me as a father would be balancing my work situation and the relationships affected because of it. I’m gone so much that I REALLY try and focus all my energy on making memories through experiences when I’m off work. It’s a very difficult thing sometimes spend quality time with both kids and the wifie when you have almost no more energy to give. Working out and energy drinks bro, working out and energy drinks.

Who influenced you most as a father?

I have a strange answer for this one….my four stepfathers and my real father influenced me greatly. My mom and dad got divorced when I was 7 (the age my boy is now) & moved out of state to avoid child support payments and I didn’t see him again until the day before he passed. My other stepfathers were sincerely the poster children for abusive, horrible father figures so I learned from each of them how not to be and what not to do. I’m the oldest of 7 kids and I pretty much raised my mom too. haha Growing up was baptism by fire for sure but it made me cherish my family!

How do you balance being martial artist, hip hop artist, husband, and a father?

As for martial arts, it’s in my blood and what I’ve always done since kindergarten so it’s an inseparable part of who I am.

As an eMCee, my family fuels my passion for writing and making music. (There’s a song on my last album, Propaganda, specifically for my son and I plan on dedicating songs on this next one to more of my family)

Being a husband is one of the best things I’ve ever done. My wife actually proposed to me and we’ve been married for 13 years now. She’s given me two of the most amazing humans I’ve ever met and shown me what it truly is to love; she’s as much a part of me as breathing at this point.

As far as being a father, I balance everything else around that! I’m 100% a family man and every decision I make filters through the “is this best for my kids” before I decide. It’s the most difficult and most rewarding job I could ever imagine. Being a father is the most important thing I’ve ever done with my life.

What is the home school experience like?

Homeschooling is, in my opinion, the way to go! My son, Cam, is only 7 but he’s on a 5th grade reading level, he’s doing second grade/third grade math and speaks a bit of Japanese, German, French & Spanish. My almost 4 year old daughter is already learning everyday alongside her big brother and she loves it! (She speaks a bit of Japanese as well)

Did the military help shape you as a parent?

I’d have to say no on that one. My house is about as far opposite from the military as you can get. Haha We encourages individualism and creativity every chance we get and they sleep on their own schedules, for the most part. We also sleep together as a family like much of the world where family is paramount over social stigma. When the kiddos are old enough to want to sleep on their own, they’re welcome to it. They have their own rooms but prefer to sleep with mom and dad.

What is the most the important thing that you want to teach your children?

Love, Financial security, self-control, good eating habits & perseverance are all important but if you don’t have love, you are truly poor.

Raising a boy and girl, what has been the biggest adjustment in the house?

I think I may be lucky because they are best friends. They spend every day together and love each other very much. They fight but it’s rare and never very serious. I know every parent says this but I’m very lucky to have such great kids. The biggest issue is getting them to eat healthy. Haha

What is the most stressful thing as a dad?

The most stressful thing about being a dad is, by far, worrying!! No one ever tells you before you have kids about the amount of worrying you’ll do. I worry about food, I worry they’ll get hurt, I even worry about who’ll they’ll hang out with years from now and the choices they’ll make with their lives. All I can do is my best as a father and try to give them all the tools they’ll need to navigate this messed up world. I have full faith that these two will do great things with their lives because they’re both individually so brilliant and big hearted but that’ll never stop me from worrying.

Any advice for the new dads?

For brand new dads….SLEEP!! This will be your greatest challenge so sleep every time the baby does if possible. Listen to your kiddos when they’re old enough to express themselves. This doesn’t mean just hear them, listen to them. Their dream, likes, dislikes, fears, hopes, everything! They’re your kiddos but they’re individuals that will surprise you with how amazing they can be. Also, worrying about money WILL HAPPEN. I’ve always heard people say, “We have to be financially ready for kids”, well, NO ONE will ever be financially ready for everything that comes with raising a kiddo! Lastly, have fun!!! The more serious you are, the more serious they will be. (That works with all emotions btw)

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Fast Food Fathers- cooking directions 

Have you ever need something quick to make or easy! I was going to say recipes but let’s face it. You have shit do, your kids are most likely cranky. Here’s a little something. Easy cooking by a simple dad. Crock Pot Beef & Broccoli 

1 ½ lbs. Boneless Beef Chuck Roast – sliced into thin strips

1 cup Beef Broth

½ cup Brown Sugar

1 tbsp Sesame Oil

3 Garlic Cloves – minced

2 tbsp Cornstarch

3 cups Frozen/ Fresh Broccoli Florets

White or Brown Rice – cooked

1. Mix beef broth, soy sauce, brown sugar, sesame oil, and garlic

2. Lay beef strips in the crockpot and pour sauce over coating the beef

3. Turn crockpot on low and cook for 5 hours

4. When done take 4 tbsp of the sauce and whisk in the cornstarch to help the sauce thicken. Stir it slowly then into the Crock pot. Put the broccoli in and let cook for an additional 30-40 minutes

5. Once done serve over rice and enjoy