Lessons from Moana

Parenthood is full of lessons. Every day I discover something new about myself. Between early mornings and late nights, seems like I’m stumbling along the way. Frustration is a normal with everything changing. Moana has given me a few life lessons, which I seem to put into my life.

  1. Who are you?

Moana is asking herself who she is meant be. In a way I’m searching for this new dude. As father, I’m simply confused with the lifestyle changes. Watching your kid grow up is a major change to your life. You become more emotional and asking yourself where the time went. Two months, she is barely rolling over and now she is almost crawling. With all that you are changing too. Running on very little sleep, asking yourself how much coffee is left in pot, and when can I shit in peace. Your body could be changing too. Gaining a few pounds or even losing a few pounds. Financial stress could be happening at your household. Either way you look at it, you’re asking yourself “Who have I become”

 

  1. Learning something new.

In the movie, Moana must learn to sail. As she starts to sail, she makes mistakes and stumbles along the way. That’s been my whole experience as a parent. Getting my finger covered in poop, guessing bottle measurements, and trying adjust my lifestyle to their routine. Moana meets Maui who teaches her how to sail.  My teacher was my mother, I have seven sisters. So I learned a lot already. But it’s different when it’s your own child. The only things I can say is keep on learning.

 

  1. Positive attitude.

At the worst of times you need to have a great attitude, even when things start to go bad. I get it; the kid could be cranky when driving somewhere. Take a breather, and relax. Nothing is going to get better if you have a shitty attitude; it’s going to get worse. You’ll most likely just get more frustrated and in turn so will they. I have done that to myself. It’s the worst feeling, I just felt defeated. Not because I was mad, just because I gave into myself. Remember kids grow and can be a pain in your ass. Be happy. And your welcome.

Parenting can be tough. But so is life. It sucks. The strange thing is that it only gets better, I promise that it will. The next time you are watching your kid’s favorite movie or show. Please and try to take a lesson away from it. Unless it’s Caliou, fuck that kid.  Otherwise turn on your favorite movie when the kid falls asleep.  After all, happiness is always key.

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Locker Room Talk: Macrophonic Mc

This guy! A man who has lived a life. He’s dad, Emcee, a hard worker, and a martial artist. I was really glad I had the chance to talk to this guy. The best a part was his honesty. A dad of a son and daughter.  Check him out!

What’s the hardest learning experience as a father?

Whoa! Haha Start with a doozy! I think the most difficult learning experience for me as a father would be balancing my work situation and the relationships affected because of it. I’m gone so much that I REALLY try and focus all my energy on making memories through experiences when I’m off work. It’s a very difficult thing sometimes spend quality time with both kids and the wifie when you have almost no more energy to give. Working out and energy drinks bro, working out and energy drinks.

Who influenced you most as a father?

I have a strange answer for this one….my four stepfathers and my real father influenced me greatly. My mom and dad got divorced when I was 7 (the age my boy is now) & moved out of state to avoid child support payments and I didn’t see him again until the day before he passed. My other stepfathers were sincerely the poster children for abusive, horrible father figures so I learned from each of them how not to be and what not to do. I’m the oldest of 7 kids and I pretty much raised my mom too. haha Growing up was baptism by fire for sure but it made me cherish my family!

How do you balance being martial artist, hip hop artist, husband, and a father?

As for martial arts, it’s in my blood and what I’ve always done since kindergarten so it’s an inseparable part of who I am.

As an eMCee, my family fuels my passion for writing and making music. (There’s a song on my last album, Propaganda, specifically for my son and I plan on dedicating songs on this next one to more of my family)

Being a husband is one of the best things I’ve ever done. My wife actually proposed to me and we’ve been married for 13 years now. She’s given me two of the most amazing humans I’ve ever met and shown me what it truly is to love; she’s as much a part of me as breathing at this point.

As far as being a father, I balance everything else around that! I’m 100% a family man and every decision I make filters through the “is this best for my kids” before I decide. It’s the most difficult and most rewarding job I could ever imagine. Being a father is the most important thing I’ve ever done with my life.

What is the home school experience like?

Homeschooling is, in my opinion, the way to go! My son, Cam, is only 7 but he’s on a 5th grade reading level, he’s doing second grade/third grade math and speaks a bit of Japanese, German, French & Spanish. My almost 4 year old daughter is already learning everyday alongside her big brother and she loves it! (She speaks a bit of Japanese as well)

Did the military help shape you as a parent?

I’d have to say no on that one. My house is about as far opposite from the military as you can get. Haha We encourages individualism and creativity every chance we get and they sleep on their own schedules, for the most part. We also sleep together as a family like much of the world where family is paramount over social stigma. When the kiddos are old enough to want to sleep on their own, they’re welcome to it. They have their own rooms but prefer to sleep with mom and dad.

What is the most the important thing that you want to teach your children?

Love, Financial security, self-control, good eating habits & perseverance are all important but if you don’t have love, you are truly poor.

Raising a boy and girl, what has been the biggest adjustment in the house?

I think I may be lucky because they are best friends. They spend every day together and love each other very much. They fight but it’s rare and never very serious. I know every parent says this but I’m very lucky to have such great kids. The biggest issue is getting them to eat healthy. Haha

What is the most stressful thing as a dad?

The most stressful thing about being a dad is, by far, worrying!! No one ever tells you before you have kids about the amount of worrying you’ll do. I worry about food, I worry they’ll get hurt, I even worry about who’ll they’ll hang out with years from now and the choices they’ll make with their lives. All I can do is my best as a father and try to give them all the tools they’ll need to navigate this messed up world. I have full faith that these two will do great things with their lives because they’re both individually so brilliant and big hearted but that’ll never stop me from worrying.

Any advice for the new dads?

For brand new dads….SLEEP!! This will be your greatest challenge so sleep every time the baby does if possible. Listen to your kiddos when they’re old enough to express themselves. This doesn’t mean just hear them, listen to them. Their dream, likes, dislikes, fears, hopes, everything! They’re your kiddos but they’re individuals that will surprise you with how amazing they can be. Also, worrying about money WILL HAPPEN. I’ve always heard people say, “We have to be financially ready for kids”, well, NO ONE will ever be financially ready for everything that comes with raising a kiddo! Lastly, have fun!!! The more serious you are, the more serious they will be. (That works with all emotions btw)

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Pro Tip From An Okay Dad

1: Shitty pants When changing a diaper the most important thing is to make sure they are done pooping. Otherwise your day could get a lot shittier. Make sure you wipe their little tush really good and apply diaper cream. Diaper rash cream a pain in the ass. You don’t like your bum itchy pretty sure they don’t either. 
2: Quick draw

When your getting them dresses or undressed. Make sure you got our finger on the trigger when doing so. Triple check that they don’t roll over the edge when putting on pants. For fuck sakes, give them something to keep them occupied. Their is no point getting frustrated when they want to be naked and your trying to dress them. 
3: Suckers are for kids

Always have a soother. Know where they are at all times, because there is nothing worse than a screaming kid who only wants its soother. Common mistake is misplacing them. Remember the brand they like, they are picky little shits. Have more than just four in your house. They will be everywhere that you can’t find when you really need it. 
4: Put that shit on repeat 

When your kid finds something that they love and want all the time. Make sure you know it and have it always. Speaking from experience I know every single song from Moana. Some days that is the ONLY thing that will make her happy. Once you find what they like make their favourite thing your new favourite thing. 
5: Sneaky time

Want sexy time? You got to keep that shit quiet. That includes playing with the chicken or rubbing wood gentlemen. There is nothing more disappointing than having a boner and now having to explain yourself. Practice safe sex. Don’t want anymore running around right away. 

Double Check The Playbook

When you are packing your gym bag, you grab shoes, shorts and extra shit that you need. See I thought it was the same thing when packing the diaper bag. That’s a huge negative. I felt like I was getting ready for a four day hiking trip. Between bottles, diapers, blankets, and soothers I thought I had it all. Trust me, you need extra of everything.

The first time I went out with my daughter by myself, I felt like it was going to the weirdest thing to do. Why, you might ask, because I’ve never done anything like this. So the first place we go to is to look at dirt bikes.  We packed up the diaper bag, hopped in my truck and off we went. I decided we should stop at Yamaha and KTM. Well the Yamaha stop went off without a hitch.  As we started the drive to KTM, I smelt something nasty. Good thing KTM, wasn’t that far away. The smell got stronger as we got closer. We parked, I unbuckled the car seat, and the poop fumes crawled up into my nose. I am trying to be calm and cool as I walked through store. A salesman approached us; I felt this nervous feeling go through me. He said “Anything I can help you with?” In my mind I thought to myself “this is a shitty diaper and I don’t want to really talk to you.” I quickly walked by him without saying anything. The poor dude, I felt bad. But I had business to attend too.

Well this weird, the fucking men’s bathroom wasn’t equipped with a change station. This situation just got a bit shitter. But that’s how we roll, prepared for anything. I make a station on the counter, and started changing the diaper. Then I ran I out baby wipes. “Fuck me, I didn’t check” I whispered under my breath. Okay, okay, back up plan. Let me just grab some toilet paper, and soak it in warm water. All the sudden the door came open. It was a fellow dad. I asked him “Hey man, could I grab some baby wipes” Like a low key drug deal, he slid me some wipes. Lesson learned, pack extra shit. Also pack stuff for yourself too.

After that mess, we started to look at dirt bikes and sleds. Between the car seat, and diaper bag I slowly became tired. It almost felt a sled pull drill. Don’t drop the baby and hold the twenty pound diaper bag for an hour. But it’s about the gains bro. You got weights right there. Curl for the girls. Just don’t drop the baby.

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