With the Masters kicking off this past week, I honestly think this is worst time in sports. Mostly due to Basketball, football, and hockey has either ended or playoffs are about to start. The hype around Tiger Woods is unreal right now. But as a father it’s the best time though. Spring is here, which means I can finely take my kid out and start exploring. This has been a crazy week for myself.
This upcoming week I’m head back to school for a course. Its funny though, cause I played basketball at this college. I feel like returning for one more shot. This must have been what Michael Jordan must have felt like when he returned to the Bulls. I am honestly confused about the process, but you have trust the process. Wonder if the Sixers trust the process to win the NBA championship? I think they have good chance at winning the East; on the other hand there is Lebron James. Studying after class is usually what crushes me, but now I am going to approach it head on. No easy day.
I played in first spring league game. Not bad, 16 pts, 5, ast, 1 blk. Its not a terrible stat. I’ve put up better though. Another guy whom also started spring is Johnny Manziel. Is the dude back, or just a dude who is really good playing at a low level? I think he could make a comeback though. Myself, I’m excited for the education part of school this time. Not just balling out of control, just improving me and my career. Maybe I’ll even take some jump shots at the gym. It’ll be strange to walk the halls, cause last you were there it was like 10 years ago.
It’s been a wicked past few days; my kid is growing and getting over a chest infection. Why do kids get sick so much? We have watched a few movies and I have discovered troll hunters, sweet fucking show. One thing I have to have to say, now that I am dad. I have started to watch a lot more cartoons. Most shows I grew up with. I have watched Dragon Ball Z and My Hero Academia. It’s been awesome though. The kid has become a lot more cuddly and needy. More cranky episodes, and of course me trying to sooth a kid when then they only want their moms. This upcoming week is going to be full struggle and a reward. I can’t wait honestly.
With Loyola losing to Michigan, it ends there like a Cinderella run. It kind of makes me angry, just a little bit with them losing. Like if my kid walks in into the corner of a table or the couch, should I be angry with myself? Or do I just say walk it off kid? It’s a tough choice. Either way you’re stuck with calming your child down and hiding the tears from your wife. Because lets face it, if you fuck up, you might die.
Moving on from that baby stage to that toddler stage can be big a problem. They become little people, with personalities. My kid touches everything, licks everything, and gets mad at me for no reason. It’s more of sports agent at this point. Trying to understand what they want, but they cant really express that due to a lack of words. “Like dad I want more of this and need more attention.” Can you imagine if Odell Beckham Jr. was like “hey coach, I want the franchise tag?” But could express it through moans, groans and angry fits. Oh wait; NY giants could trade him with that attitude. Oh, Dez Bryant, what now?
When I come home from work, I’m tired. I have one rule that I was to obey by. Pick up your kid no matter what. My dad did it, so now I do it. No matter how tired I am. I always pick up the kid. I know it can be shitty at work, but when you come home remember that there’s a kid that loves you no matter what. It’s sad that some people don’t really pay that much attention to their children. Get off the fucking phone, Facebook isn’t going anywhere, Instagram don’t give a fuck about you.
If you didn’t become what you want, or who want, there’s time, trust me. It is never to late to become a better dad, person, lover or just overall person. Just put practice in. It’ll pay off. Look at Cleveland Cavs, looking good for the playoffs, and Yankees looking good too. Just keep your head down and grind it out. You’ll always be a superstar to your kid. You may never have gotten to be an all star, MVP or even medal at anything. Parenting doesn’t give participation medals, it’s either be good, or be shitty. Don’t fuck up when its time to show up. Just keep showing up and grinding. If you got to get help to get you there find it and use it. Either way I love being a dad and the adventure is always up and down. But damn, it’s damn rewarding.
When your kid is settling into a new place, they tend not to sleep though the night. That’s not good news for you as a parent. Instead its filled with “I’ll get the baby” or “fuck me, I need sleep”. It’s painful but it’s parenting. They don’t give out medals for it. Waking up at first I was just angry, just looking like Russell Westbrook after he dunks. Curled lips, and a pure frown. It’s a good look for me.
With Cleveland Browns signing Jarvis Landry, did they get a whole better? Now do I draft him in fantasy? I’ll leave that question up to you. Like him, I want a home of my own. Seeking to buy a house is no easy task. Especially when you’re not rich, and housing is expensive. It’s a learning curve. It’s like big, small, how many bedrooms, and how many toilets do I really want to clean? What happens if you take the biggest shits in the house? These are my thoughts when I walk through these show homes. It’s nice knowing that you’re looking for one, and planning a better future for your family.
Lets talk upsets for a second; like I get surprised that my child just outsmarted me on a simple task. Like turning on my Google phone, it’s weird that she figured out an IPhone, so smart. Lets be honest, it’s an apple product. It’s not hard. But she figured out my phone completely. Kids theses day. Next thing she’ll want is to listen to mumble rap and shit rock music. I’ll be trying my hardest to have Mobb Deep, Nas, Tupac, Mike Stud, Travis James Band, Tragically Hip, and Johnny Cash playing in the background, I promise. Now no one predicted that Loyola IL would make it to the Final four, let alone make it out of the first round.
With the ponds melting and grass slowly coming through, that means basketball is coming to an end, and baseball is starting. With spring season starting, I’m excited for the first time in a long time about baseball. AAU basketball is also starting. With kids come the loud mouth parents. I guess in closing, don’t sleep with your mouth open; nobody likes slobber, just asks my wife. Get up at night share the duty of a kid. Learn to love the sleepless night because they need you. Then one-day they won’t. To be honest, it’s a fear of mine.
Dealing with a kid that is learning crawl and stand up is busy. Between her and the dog, I have started to feel like I have become a goalie and chasing them both. One is in the dog water and other eating the leftover crackers. My favorite word lately is “No”. The wife can drop that word on dime, and then I get to watch a 10 month old crawl away and act like she didn’t do it. We also started to use sign language when telling her No. I mostly just say no, when I don’t want to do anything.
I have hearing lost, and I wear hearing aids. Which I am trying to wear a lot more, but at the same time I just forget to wear them. I have had hearing lost since I was a little kid. That’s reason why we as family are using sign language around the house. My biggest fear is that I’ll go completely deaf, and not have a way to communicate with my family. It’s been interesting trying to learn a language that acquires for your hands. About 80 percent of the time I feel like I’m flipping gang signs.
When my daughter was born, I was hoping she didn’t have any hearing related problems. I honestly wasn’t prepared if she was. Then one day I was like “What the fuck Troy, if you can get through it. So can she.” I was treating it like it was a handicap, instead of thinking that it wasn’t.
I’m slowing learning sign language. It has been difficult to remember to talk and use sign together. Simple things like saying yes and no. I forget to use them or I don’t enforce it. So I’ve been trying to keep a consistent reminder to use it. YouTube has been the biggest help. There are a lot of resources out there if you want to learn baby sign. The word love in sign has been my favorite. I also do enjoy swearing at people when I get mad, but honestly they have no idea on what I’m saying. It looks I’m just some strange dude playing with his hands. It’s been awesome watching my daughter starting to recognize sign.
Here’s a link that helped me:
Well these last few days have been interesting. I went out of town to work. I learned a few things to say the least. I think the hardest thing about work away from home is watching your child grow from your phone. They are always learning and discovering things every day. When I got home, I felt sort out of the loop. I wasn’t gone very long, but still.
The first thing I noticed is the love you get from your kid when you come home. As soon as she saw me, a giant smile came across her face. I felt at home. She giggled and was just happy that I was home. The first thing we did together was play. We rolled around on the floor, and ate snacks. It’s the little things that make us happy. I was honestly just trying to enjoy the moment.
I took a step back trying to take it all in not knowing if the routine has changed at home because kids grow up so much and so fast. Things change quickly, and you can get lost. I had no idea my daughter was sitting up in her crib and playing with her blankets. She sits there just relaxing and getting herself ready for to sleep for the night. A simple few days away can change a lot of things. Lucky in my case, things didn’t change much. So ask your partner if any of the routine changed, because there’s no point in fighting about it.
Enjoy your time with your family. One thing I’m starting to learn is plan stuff for that time. Make that time exciting. But really try and challenge yourself. I’ve been to trying to read, workout, being present more. I am trying to spend less time on the phone, spending more time on the floor playing with my daughter. We went to Pet-A-Plooza this weekend; it was busy with a lot of people. Not really my thing but hey, if my family likes it. So really make the time count. Just by you being home and present, could change how your family relationship could go. So take the time. What’s the worst that could happen?
Once the time has ended, and you start packing your bags, remember that work is work. Be prepared to miss your family. But really take in that last moment. Back up your partners’ decisions while you’re away. Facetime or even just a phone call could change a bad day to a good day. Don’t text; make the message from your voice. Saying goodnight to your kid over the phone makes the world a better place for your kid, it really does. I remember when my dad was overseas, and I would count the seconds in head until my mom would pass the phone to me. It changed my day just hearing his voice. Time is precious, so take everything in and appreciate it.
Keep on, Keeping on