Dealing with a kid that is learning crawl and stand up is busy. Between her and the dog, I have started to feel like I have become a goalie and chasing them both. One is in the dog water and other eating the leftover crackers. My favorite word lately is “No”. The wife can drop that word on dime, and then I get to watch a 10 month old crawl away and act like she didn’t do it. We also started to use sign language when telling her No. I mostly just say no, when I don’t want to do anything.
I have hearing lost, and I wear hearing aids. Which I am trying to wear a lot more, but at the same time I just forget to wear them. I have had hearing lost since I was a little kid. That’s reason why we as family are using sign language around the house. My biggest fear is that I’ll go completely deaf, and not have a way to communicate with my family. It’s been interesting trying to learn a language that acquires for your hands. About 80 percent of the time I feel like I’m flipping gang signs.
When my daughter was born, I was hoping she didn’t have any hearing related problems. I honestly wasn’t prepared if she was. Then one day I was like “What the fuck Troy, if you can get through it. So can she.” I was treating it like it was a handicap, instead of thinking that it wasn’t.
I’m slowing learning sign language. It has been difficult to remember to talk and use sign together. Simple things like saying yes and no. I forget to use them or I don’t enforce it. So I’ve been trying to keep a consistent reminder to use it. YouTube has been the biggest help. There are a lot of resources out there if you want to learn baby sign. The word love in sign has been my favorite. I also do enjoy swearing at people when I get mad, but honestly they have no idea on what I’m saying. It looks I’m just some strange dude playing with his hands. It’s been awesome watching my daughter starting to recognize sign.
Here’s a link that helped me:
Well these last few days have been interesting. I went out of town to work. I learned a few things to say the least. I think the hardest thing about work away from home is watching your child grow from your phone. They are always learning and discovering things every day. When I got home, I felt sort out of the loop. I wasn’t gone very long, but still.
The first thing I noticed is the love you get from your kid when you come home. As soon as she saw me, a giant smile came across her face. I felt at home. She giggled and was just happy that I was home. The first thing we did together was play. We rolled around on the floor, and ate snacks. It’s the little things that make us happy. I was honestly just trying to enjoy the moment.
I took a step back trying to take it all in not knowing if the routine has changed at home because kids grow up so much and so fast. Things change quickly, and you can get lost. I had no idea my daughter was sitting up in her crib and playing with her blankets. She sits there just relaxing and getting herself ready for to sleep for the night. A simple few days away can change a lot of things. Lucky in my case, things didn’t change much. So ask your partner if any of the routine changed, because there’s no point in fighting about it.
Enjoy your time with your family. One thing I’m starting to learn is plan stuff for that time. Make that time exciting. But really try and challenge yourself. I’ve been to trying to read, workout, being present more. I am trying to spend less time on the phone, spending more time on the floor playing with my daughter. We went to Pet-A-Plooza this weekend; it was busy with a lot of people. Not really my thing but hey, if my family likes it. So really make the time count. Just by you being home and present, could change how your family relationship could go. So take the time. What’s the worst that could happen?
Once the time has ended, and you start packing your bags, remember that work is work. Be prepared to miss your family. But really take in that last moment. Back up your partners’ decisions while you’re away. Facetime or even just a phone call could change a bad day to a good day. Don’t text; make the message from your voice. Saying goodnight to your kid over the phone makes the world a better place for your kid, it really does. I remember when my dad was overseas, and I would count the seconds in head until my mom would pass the phone to me. It changed my day just hearing his voice. Time is precious, so take everything in and appreciate it.
Keep on, Keeping on