Lessons from Moana

Parenthood is full of lessons. Every day I discover something new about myself. Between early mornings and late nights, seems like I’m stumbling along the way. Frustration is a normal with everything changing. Moana has given me a few life lessons, which I seem to put into my life.

  1. Who are you?

Moana is asking herself who she is meant be. In a way I’m searching for this new dude. As father, I’m simply confused with the lifestyle changes. Watching your kid grow up is a major change to your life. You become more emotional and asking yourself where the time went. Two months, she is barely rolling over and now she is almost crawling. With all that you are changing too. Running on very little sleep, asking yourself how much coffee is left in pot, and when can I shit in peace. Your body could be changing too. Gaining a few pounds or even losing a few pounds. Financial stress could be happening at your household. Either way you look at it, you’re asking yourself “Who have I become”

 

  1. Learning something new.

In the movie, Moana must learn to sail. As she starts to sail, she makes mistakes and stumbles along the way. That’s been my whole experience as a parent. Getting my finger covered in poop, guessing bottle measurements, and trying adjust my lifestyle to their routine. Moana meets Maui who teaches her how to sail.  My teacher was my mother, I have seven sisters. So I learned a lot already. But it’s different when it’s your own child. The only things I can say is keep on learning.

 

  1. Positive attitude.

At the worst of times you need to have a great attitude, even when things start to go bad. I get it; the kid could be cranky when driving somewhere. Take a breather, and relax. Nothing is going to get better if you have a shitty attitude; it’s going to get worse. You’ll most likely just get more frustrated and in turn so will they. I have done that to myself. It’s the worst feeling, I just felt defeated. Not because I was mad, just because I gave into myself. Remember kids grow and can be a pain in your ass. Be happy. And your welcome.

Parenting can be tough. But so is life. It sucks. The strange thing is that it only gets better, I promise that it will. The next time you are watching your kid’s favorite movie or show. Please and try to take a lesson away from it. Unless it’s Caliou, fuck that kid.  Otherwise turn on your favorite movie when the kid falls asleep.  After all, happiness is always key.

Keep on Keeping on

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Locker Room Talk: David Kadey

David, is someone whom I grew up with. We played basketball in my front yard, and roamed the neighborhood together. Growing up with him, was pretty sweet. Himself, his brother and all of our friends just chased summer together. Now his wife and him are expecting their first child. He’s a great guy. From this interview, he’s going to be a great dad.

1. You excited to be a father or more nervous?

I guess it’s kind of both, I’m super excited to become a father, but I’m terrified. I haven’t been around to many babies and I want to be a great dad. I’m worried about everything we need to get prepared for and I want to make everything perfect. I’m excited for my wife to become a mom, she’s been ready for a long time and I can’t wait to see that.

2. Did you decide to find out what the sex was for your baby?

We are not finding out the sex of the baby. I want to know so badly, but my wife doesn’t. I even googled how to read an ultrasound to try and sneak a peek. But it didn’t work because I don’t have a clue what the sex is.

3. You playing sports, are you thinking about your kid competing in sports already?

Playing Sports were the biggest thing of my childhood. Going to games Saturday morning, playing all the time, just being active. I want my kids to play every sport they possibly can. Me personally I want my kid to play baseball. My wife wants hockey. Soccer when they are young to get rid of the all the energy. Luckily for us the seasons are apart.

4. Who had more influenced in being a parent?

My biggest influence was my mom. She worked pretty hard to put food on the table and be there for me and my brother. Single mom trying to do everything for everyone, and not even taking a minute to appreciate how good of a job she did on raising us. If I’m half the parent my mom was to us, my kid will have hit the jackpot.

5. What was your first reaction when found out your wife was pregnant?

I actually just wrote my final exam for my second year steamfitter. I found the marks out and she sat me down and told me. I was very excited. We had been trying since we got married in July. She told me I couldn’t tell anyone until the first trimester was over. This feels like an eternity.

6. Any advice for any upcoming parents?

The advice I would give to future dads is when your wife has a craving for something, go get it fast. Whenever you’re out and about call before on your way home and see what she wants. When my wife told me she was first pregnant I though 40 weeks is going to take forever. Now we’re 25 weeks and these last few months have flown by. I would tell people who are expecting whenever there is a sale on diapers, buy them! Well that’s what I did anyways.